Last updated: January 18, 2026
First of all, thank you for being here. It's so rad to be able to connect with other entrepreneurs and talk about the real issues facing us every day. I get that you have many options for where to do that and I don't take for granted that you're choosing to spend some time here.
The goal of this Code of Conduct is to ensure our community stays healthy and functional for the majority of people in it. Why the majority? Why not everyone? Because sometimes making the majority of people feel included means you end up excluding some people. That's never our goal, but it's the reality of a messy, diverse world.
This space is radically identity inclusive and as such, it's not the right space for people who have problems with pronouns in bio, nor is it a space for racists, sexists or xenophobes. We don't tolerate identity-based hate period, and if I hear about any, you'll get a note from me and you'll be removed from our spaces.
Deeper than that, I want to make sure this remains a collaborative space and not a place where people are getting pitched endlessly. That is not an ok use of our community tools and events. We are here to build real relationships and collaborate in mutually beneficial ways.
Guidelines for interacting in our spaces
These guidelines are mainly for The Legends Network but they also apply to events and our community in general. The topline is to focus on connecting and building real relationships, thoughtfully and with clear intention. It's extremely important to me that people feel valued in this space and that they're not getting sold to here.
- Build a relationship first. Legends and the Rulebreaker community are places to do business, but the way we operate here is by getting to know each other. Move with the mindset of figuring out who you want to get to know, spend time getting to know them and the business stuff will become clear.
- Please don't pitch other people unless you're asked to. I LOVE LOVE LOVE hearing that y'all are hiring each other but unless someone reaches out with clear intent to hire you, please avoid pitching them like they're a lead. What's more common in this network is collaborations, referrals and amplification (online boosts, shares, content collaborations) so that's what you can explore. We know that people need to get their bag, but if I learn you are pitching a lot without permission in our space, I will remove you.
- Please no "pick your brain" chats. Y'all know how I feel about this. Keep it mutually beneficial! If you find yourself wanting a pick your brain chat, you probably need to hire that person for some consulting.
- Be mindful about who you reach out to and why. It's not appropriate to ping every single person you come across here for a coffee chat. Have a reason to connect. That reason does not need to be transactional but it should be common ground, shared audience, something meaningful.
- Know your audience. We have had some issues in the past where collaborations go off the rails because of a major audience mismatch. Before inviting someone to collaborate, check in that your audiences are aligned. Otherwise, you can waste each other's time. Not a huge problem if it happens once, but if it's happening a bunch, it becomes an issue I pay attention to.
- Be clear about your intent when messaging people.
- "I'd like to invite you on my podcast"
- "I wanna hear more about coaching that little league team"
- "It looks like we live in the same town. I'm wondering if you'd want to have coffee in person."
Your intention does not need to be even business related, but it's super helpful if you're clear about what you wanna get out of the connection. You can absolutely ask for a "get to know you" conversation, just be clear that's what you'd like to do.
- Co-create this space: I invite you to take an active role in shaping this community. If you see something that could be better, tell me and let me know how you'd like to be involved.
- Self-sufficient participation: I LOVE hearing from you, especially what you're up to and what I can promote for you, but when it comes to events and collaborations, I really deeply appreciate when you read my notes and follow my instructions. You matter to me, but there's also a couple hundred others who I prioritize too. Your kindness on my time by doing things like submitting the forms I ask or looking for your answers first in the post FAQs is not only helpful but necessary to continue this operation.
- Tree of trust: Information shared in private spaces like our events, mixers or collaborations should not be broadcast elsewhere without the explicit permission of the person who shared it.
If you would like to make suggestions on our Code of Conduct or if you'd like to report an issue, please contact Lex.